I want to kick this section of the blog off by asking this question:
How do you deal with your kids when they throw tantrums?
I see a lot of kids throwing tantrums in public, most especially in toy stores. Even my precious Brianna has her moments. It usually gets annoyed stares from everyone else but a part of me thinks that these people don't know how hard it is to pacify a kid who seems to be on a crying spree.
My approach to this is to talk to Brianna beforehand. Let's say we're going to the toy store. A conversation like this usually takes place while I give her a bath.
Me: Honey, we're going to Toy Kingdom later ah pero we're not buying any toys.When we get to the mall, I remind her constantly - like, every 10 minutes. If my mom did that to me, I would've lost my mind - that we're not there to buy toys and usually that does it for her.
Brianna: Okay Mommy. Pwede play?
Me: Play lang pwede.
Now, if that doesn't work, I give her a timeout. When we're at home, it's usually in a corner. When we're out, I carry her and whisper things to her like how it's not something she should be crying about, etc.
I'm pretty lucky that's all it takes for her to calm down - well, that, and the tiger look which I swear, scares the beejesus out of her - but I would want to know how other parents do it so maybe I can tweak my approach a bit for it to be more effective...or so that I can prevent it to happen altogether.
Aww...I do the same with my kids before going places where there might be kiddie stuff up for sale. Although, it's a bit harder for them to remember when we're at the place already. It was easier when we only had our eldest, but now that they're three, it can be a bit hard to manage. Our youngest, so far, is the only one who actually wails every time we have to leave or pass by toy stores. He doesn't ask to buy, though, he just really wants to play. :)
ReplyDeleteMost of the time, gusto lang nila talaga mag-play, ano? :)
DeleteMy toddler seems to think the toy store is just a play area hahah. He's happy to just play around and not ask to buy anything. Maybe not yet. Whenever he goes into tantrum mode though, I'd scare him of bringing him to the CR where it's dark. It usually does the trick.
ReplyDeleteMy daughter thinks that way most of the time, too. Minsan lang talaga sobrang gusto niya magpabili ng toys.
DeleteSame here, I will always tell to my son when we can buy his toys. Or I let him choose play in timezone, toys or clothes :-).
ReplyDeleteYes, choices are definitely important para they can come up with their own decisions, di lang finefeed sa kanila yung mga gagawin nila. :)
DeleteEven when my kids are already grown up, they still need constant reminder na, o hindi tayo bibili ha? :-)
ReplyDeleteUp to what age kaya natin kailangan gawin yan, no? Hehe.
Deletestill so cute even with tantrums... hehehe. i also do that to my daughter, i talk to her and brief her about what we are gonna do for the day and why.... i think it's important to always talk to them, builds their emotional intelligence more..
ReplyDeleteYes, it's definitely important to talk to kids. Actually, with everyone, if you think about it.
DeleteWhen my daughter wants something and it's too expensive, I just tell her that it's not for sale. It still works nowadays but I'm pretty sure, she won't buy that reason later on :p
ReplyDeleteThat's when it gets tricky (-ier?), I think. :)
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